- BEARING THE MARK Joseph Damien was a nineteenth-century missionary who ministered to people with leprosy on the island of Molokai, Hawaii. Those suffering grew to love him and revered the sacrificial life he lived out before them. One morning before Damien was to lead daily worship, he was pouring some hot water into a cup when the water swirled out and fell onto his bare foot. It took him a moment to realize that he had not felt any sensation. Gripped by the sudden fear of what this could mean, he poured more hot water on the same spot. No feeling whatsoever. Damien immediately knew what had happened. As he walked tearfully to deliver his sermon, no one at first noticed the difference in his opening line. He normally began every sermon with, “My fellow believers.” But this morning he began with, “My fellow lepers.”
- Today I can address you in a number of ways – “Fellow believers;” or “Fellow sinners.”
Jesus has made us saints based on our faith in him
Yet, we all struggle with sin
- Marshall Keeble – “If I miss them in Christ I will get them in Adam.”
- From time to time we need to stop and examine our lives – how is my walk with God? What sins are impacting me? How is my walk with my fellow believers?
- THEN, we need to take action – What do I need to do to combat the temptations I am experiencing and be more faithful and fruitful?
- Instruction Manual – The Bible – SLIDE of Crash of one of the World’s Most Expensive Plane — $200M
- WE put a huge priority on our worship services. We think if we do the right acts of worship nothing else matters. Jesus puts a priority on worship that involves harmony with PEOPLE:
John 17.20-21 — 20“I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, 21 that they may all be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me.
John 13.34-35 – 34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.
Conflict Among God’s People Happens:
Two men who lived in a small village got into a terrible dispute that they could not resolve. So they decided to talk to the town sage. The first man went to the sage’s home and told his version of what happened. When he finished, the sage said, “You’re absolutely right.” The next night, the second man called on the sage and told his side of the story. The sage responded, “You’re absolutely right.” Afterward, the sage’s wife scolded her husband. “Those men told you two different stories and you told them they were absolutely right. That’s impossible-they can’t both be absolutely right.” The sage turned to his wife and said, “You’re absolutely right.”
Biblical Examples – Aaron & Miriam; Acts 6; Paul & Barnabas over John Mark . . .
•1. Be Humble – Matthew 18.3-4
•2. Follow Procedure <The Instruction Manual>
- a. Private, Face to Face Conversation – 18.15
- i. If he sins against you
- ii. If you sin against him (5.23)
- iii. Go quickly
USA Today had an article on the front page about those who escaped the World Trade Center on September 11. After interviewing over 300 survivors and family members of victims, USA Today concluded that in the South tower those who didn’t delay but ran for safety immediately are the one’s who survived. Those who delayed are the ones who perished. Our spiritual life is much the same, that those who delay and put off a commitment to Jesus Christ or spiritual actions often wait until it’s too late. USA Today also noted that people lived or died in the towers by groups, influenced to stay or go by the people around them. The same is true in our spirituality, that people are often influenced to seek Christ or to reject Christ by those around them.
- v. Seek Reconciliation – NOT justification to be angry; NOT winning an argument;
- b. Witnesses (v. 16)
- i. It is easier to involve others before we talk to our brother — Gossip
Harriet, the church gossip and self-appointed supervisor of the church’s morals, kept sticking her nose into other people’s business. Several residents were unappreciative of her activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence. She made a mistake, however, when she accused George, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his pickup truck parked all afternoon in front of the town’s only bar. She commented to George and others that everyone seeing it there would know that he was an alcoholic. George, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and then just walked away. He said nothing. Later that evening, George quietly parked his pickup in front of Harriet’s house and left it there all night…
- ii. “What did ___________ say when you talked to him/her?”
- c. Tell the Church (v. 17a) – Get it in the open;
- d. If no reconciliation – Love them as an outsider (v. 17b)
•3. Remember the Difficulty of Forgiveness – 18.21-22
- a. Rabbis – Forgive three times
- b. Peter – 7
- c. Jesus – 77
•d. Genesis 4.15; 24 - Forgive with this kind of intensity – Cain & Lamech
•4. Resist Temptations:
- a. Revenge
- b. Ignore it, it will go away – It usually doesn’t
- c. Distance myself from the person/issue
- Parable of the unmerciful servant (18.23-35) – King forgives large debt and expects us to forgive the lesser ones;
- During WWII, a German soldier plunged into a shell hole. There he found a wounded enemy. The fallen soldier was soaked with blood and only minutes from death. Touched by the plight of the man, the German soldier offered him water.
Through that simple, small kindness a bond was formed. The dying man pointed to his shirt pocket.
The German soldier took from it a wallet and removed some family pictures. He held them so the wounded man could look at his loved ones for the last time. With bullets raging overhead and war all around them, these two enemies were, for a few moments, friends.
WHAT HAPPENED IN THAT SHELL HOLE? Did all evil cease to exist? No. Were all wrongs made right? No. What happened was this: Two enemies saw each other as humans in need of help. And that’s what forgiveness is.
Forgiveness is rising above the war, looking beyond what we are, and choosing to see others, not as enemies or even as friends, BUT AS FELLOW SOLDIERS WANTING TO MAKE IT HOME SAFELY.
- Golden rule/1st and 2nd commands cannot be fulfilled if we mistreat one another or harbor grudges
- There has been a lot of hurt over the years – unintentional
- Today – pick up the phone and make an appointment to see someone you need to reconcile with.
- RE Lee – Cut it down and forget it.